Comments on: Four Years And One Day Ago….

By: warsawmommy

warsawmommy — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 11:45:33 +0000

Thanks, everyone… like Neil said, we miss him every day. I know he’d have been a fabulous grandfather and that the boys would have adored him.

Life is not fair sometimes, you know?

By: Veronica

Veronica — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 22:52:51 +0000

I’m so sorry. 4 years later that almost seems silly to say, but I know, you never stop missing them. xx

By: Neil

Neil — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 12:50:24 +0000

I miss him too sis. Everyday, not just this week.
I was honored to stand in for Dad for the proud role of walking you down the aisle but sincerely I wish everything could have been different.
Thanks for acknowledging the difficult role I had as gatekeeper. I am a proud to live on Canadian soil but I miss both of my sisters and their family’s who live far, far away from here.
I will say this: there are not many people in this world I will let speak on my behalf. But you did a tremendous job at the funeral. The strength you showed being able to keep your emotions at bay was commendable. I was happy that you were able to detail his life for the others present.
Death sucks. But our father passed away at a particularly shitty time. He was cheated out of so many great days ahead. I’m positive he would have been a fantastic grandfather to your boys…..
And we were cheated too.
Many thanks to all that commented on this particularly personal post. There is just not enough sympathy in the world to share when it comes to death of an immediate family member.
Just typing this reply is making me sad. I have no idea how you were able to write what you did.

By: Kristin

Kristin — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 04:07:07 +0000

I’m so sorry you lost your dad and at such a difficult time. I can empathize with so much of your story. I was 3 months pregnant when I got married and then a month later my father passed away. He never had a chance to meet my husband or either of my kids. It was such a crazy and confusing time. My heart goes out to you. hugs.

By: LoriD

LoriD — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 20:28:21 +0000

Your dad sounds like he would have been a wonderful grandfather. My uncle recently passed away and my cousins, who are about to become parents for the first time, are also mourning the loss of their children’s grandfather. I get this. I’m so sorry.

By: Marla

Marla — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 17:15:42 +0000

I am so sorry for you loss. March 14 sucks for me too… My grandma died last year from cancer on this date. Hang in there.

By: Lynn @ Walking With Scissors

Lynn @ Walking With Scissors — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 16:37:54 +0000

Heartbreaking, but so beautifully written. I am so sorry for your loss. In the future, your boys are going to be so very grateful for posts like this which will certainly help them to feel as if they knew their grandfather.

By: Mary

Mary — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 12:12:10 +0000

No words, just {{{{hugs}}}}. I’m sorry for your loss.

By: Ness at Drovers Run

Ness at Drovers Run — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 11:07:16 +0000

Hi there

Found your blog via Sleepless Nights – your post really caught me in the throat. My dad died last month of cancer at the age of 81. It was peaceful, and I was there, unlike two of my siblings who are in Australia, which is why I think your post really *got* to me, because I completely understood what it must have meant to you to not have seen him, not had a chance to say good bye.

Either way it’s not easy, I just wanted to say hi, and that your post touched me